Decide whether it's "for fun" or something more serious.One of the members of my Inner Circle asked me to write about being an older woman involved with a younger man because she's dating someone younger. You use it as a reason to blow them off, pare back your options, and fuel embittered stories about how It’s So Hard to Meet Good Men. One of my most popular posts to date is 7 Reasons Why You Should Want to Date an Older Woman. ” followed by a high five, which is kind of odd when you think about it. As I approached my mid 30s, I wondered if this meant I was now a bona fide cougar. The term conjures an image of a hungry, embattled woman with heavily coiffed hair, mummified in makeup, squeezed into a bedazzled top and looking to “score” a young man. The problem is, you think that person has to be older than you. Just as chronological age doesn’t always “cure” one of immaturity, a man can be all of these things and still be 24, 28, 30 (depending on what you consider young). You’ve told yourself you don’t really want a younger man. Regardless of how sexually permissive and progressive we think we are, there’s still a bit of eyebrow raising when a woman dates younger. And when I tell people that (if they ask or if it comes up), I either get a lilting “Reaalllly” or a “You go girl!I guess I'm kind of an expert in this arena because I've been involved with a younger man for the past two and a half years. He's 23 years younger, which is probably a bigger gap than most couples.The crazy thing is how perfectly suited we are to each other and how well we match on every level, even though, on the surface, it would seem like we'd have very little in common. Here are the reasons you wave off the idea of dating young: (aimless, noncommittal, out just for sex). But it didn’t seem to fit my reasons for dating younger, nor is it an accurate or flattering explanation of why younger men are worth dating.
And the crazy thing is, we marvel that it continues to get better with each passing month.Tessina, Ph D, a licensed family therapist in practice in Long Beach, Calif., and author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again, tells Web MD.For their part, the men like the sophistication and life success of their older mates, she explains.It's not what you think -- the stamina or "re-boot" ability of the younger male.The women like the flexibility and sense of adventure of their more spontaneous, younger companions, Tina B.To say men JUST want sex, especially young men, isn’t a fair assessment.