My ex is dating again


Every time you experience a negative reaction to your ex dating, stop and go through the list of reasons you are no longer married. Is it possible you are uncomfortable with the idea of your ex dating because you are stuck and unable to move forward with your life?

Remembering the negative aspects of your marriage can go a long way in helping alleviate any the unpleasant idea of him/her dating again. I’m sure you’ve heard that saying, “The best revenge is living well.” Well, it’s true!

My advice, however, is to not assume anything about your new/old partner, but to relearn about this person.

In your time apart, your ex could have done a multitude of really cool things, like contemplating a new career path, getting really into meditation or become the biggest Chicago Bulls fan in the world.

Keep friends’ warnings in perspective Once things become a little more official, friends and family may feel the need to remind you of all the terrible things that this person put you through.

Remember that they are doing this out of genuine care for you.

A little bit of bruised ego is natural but if you become consumed by his new relationship or exploits, it may be time to ask whether you’re really over him, and if you are; what is it about your own life that makes this news so unbearable.

Often you’ll find that the reason it bothers you is because you have taken his actions as some sort of reflection on you and the past you shared together.

These are common questions you may ask yourself when your ex-spouse starts dating again.Really ask yourself why you want to be with this person: have they changed in a positive way since the last time? Taking a personal inventory can be daunting, but it will help you determine whether or not this second round is for real.Sure, sometimes dating an ex is a giant mistake, but in my experience if you approach it maturely and honestly, it can be all sorts of wonderful.Don’t hold grudges from the past, but DO address past issues If you guys had a fairly horrible break-up, the idea of bringing it up when you are in the fun stage of dating may seem like the least appealing idea ever.Guilt trips about past relationship failures will tank a new redo relationship fast, but being open and honest about what went wrong will help prevent history from repeating itself.Sometime late last year, my ex and I worked up the nerve to become friends again.

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