I personally know several couples who dated for five years or more and finally did get married (and are still happily married). Because I might have just given women stuck in dead end relationships which will never lead to marriage the false hope that they too will be one of those success stories, and the motivation (or excuse) to hang in their for another couple of years (or more). If you’re in a relationship with a man who is unable to ask for your hand in marriage, you have two choices:1. If you are in your mid thirties, staying in a dead end relationship could be socially, and maternally, suicidal. To find out how you can communicate directly with your own personal dating and relationship coach, click here.
Ladies, before you get too excited let me tell you two things about those success stories:1. I can only imagine the frustration and pain they constantly had to suffer as year after year flew by with nothing more to show for than some I love you’s and promises of impending engagement, as they watched their friends walk down the wedding aisle one by one. It's affordable and super convenient and effective.
If you keep these discussions light and non-confrontational, you’ll soon know where you stand, and if you’re not happy with their stance, you can decide early on whether it’s something you want to proceed with.
You don’t want to appear possessive and jealous just weeks into meeting someone – save that for later, when you can check their phone while they’re in the shower (just kidding).
In any case, you should know why you’re taking the plunge and you should know why they are too.
Dear Jim: Is it possible that we fail more and more because we are extending the steps and are making the process more and more complicated?
OK, so you’ve navigated the world of online dating, read hundreds of profiles, sent countless messages, been on a handful of dates.
And then it happens, the most terrifying thing of all: you meet someone you actually really like, and that’s where the real difficulty begins.
The amount of time required can vary from couple to couple, but I have seen that a year or more is very prudent in most cases.
Allow me to share some thoughts that come to mind: How long should a single Christian wait to get married? My personal recommendation for most is to spend a year or more in a relationship building a solid foundation for the future before marrying.
Some of these talks can happen quite naturally over the course of your average courtship.